Category Archives: Parent

Single moms

Single moms need a lot of help. At times its so difficult to balance it all. Trying to raise kids in the ways of the Lord pays off. I have many things that go on in my life throughout the day & I’m super busy.
God must give us single mothers extra grace to do all we have to do. If there is no father in the picture it may seem extra trying at times. Find time to spend with God and refresh yourself.
I am determined to hold my ground no matter what comes my way… The teen years, raising sons, my child’s health issues, money issues whatever it is I hold on to God.
These are real things single parents go through.
Speak up if you need help, take a break, get together with friends, exercise, read the bible. There are many ways to relieve the stress in your lives.
Just know there are a lot of us in the same situation.You are not alone
Isaiah 54:5
For your Creator will be your husband; the LORD of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.

Women and Children in abusive homes

I  have thought long and hard about these things and I’ve lived through a lot of this myself. Yes God thinks family is important .

Everyone who knows me knows what kind of wife I was and what kind of mom I am to my kids.

I value marriage and all God thinks of it.

But at what point does a person step away and say “Enough” I’m not talking about getting a divorce, I’m talking about getting your head straight and saving your kids.

If you are getting beat on, spit on, verbally abused, watching your kids live in fear, drugs are being used in the home ..the list goes on and on, then this is a unhealthy environment for your kids to grow up in.

I lived in shelters many of times growing up. We saw some stuff . My dad was on heroin and put us through alot. He is a great man now and all is forgiven, but when he was younger he had some real issues to deal with.

I went through similar things as an adult too.
So at one point I said, “Enough”
I needed to help my kids, I needed to think of them .

If your man wants to do his thing ,put that man in God’s hands ,trust God and raise your kids to know Jesus. Its the most important job in the world to raise your babies.

When your the only parent paying attention to the needs of your kids, you have got to do whats best for them. Your sons and daughters seeing you get kicked around, punched out and called a female dog isn’t right AT ALL.
If that’s all you you’ve ever known, then stop and think.DO I want my kids to end up like him?

Pray about this . There is help for you.

Some suggestions for resources

Local churches,Women’s shelters, Police Stations
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Drugs ,addictions & the loved ones caught in the cross fire

Addiction not only hurts the addict, but all those who love them. It’s a mad cycle of really good times and then a huge fall of bad times. Just like the feeling of a roller coaster, huge turns, dips, fears & shock. I knew addiction my whole life, even though I wasn’t always the one with the addiction. Addiction was a normal part of life for me.When I got saved my eyes were really opened as to the demonic world opened through addiction. Sometimes drugs are used for an introverted person to be the life of the party. Sometimes people with mental health issues find this is a way to self-medicate. Some people haven’t dealt with things they are trying to forget about, a horrible childhood & other places where they feel like a failure in life. So they use drugs to forget. All of a sudden for whatever reason you start ,you then find you cannot stop. Addiction is now second nature for you. You think about it all the time. And daily you fight with yourself about it. Until you seek out old friends who have the drugs you need. Then your in it again , the roller coaster. Jesus literally delivered me from addiction. If temptation tries to cross my mind I rebuke that devil. Remember the Bible says,What you allow will overtake you. So at the onset of sin Cast it Out! One of the fruits of the spirit is Self control. You have a choice .The Bible says to CHOOSE life. You can say NO. If your struggling ask for some help. If your in deep , get away from those old friends. The Bible says “Bad company corrupts good character” Hey they have a choice to ,your friends. You are not God .They need to seek him out for themselves. He is God after all. Like the bible says “How can the blind lead the blind?”He made them he can handle it. Don’t underestimate the power the name of Jesus has. He is mighty to save,deliver & change your life.

If you have a loved one struggling ,yes help them give them resources they may need. But dont allow yourself to get sucked up & wore out! Trust me I know what Im talking about. I dont give a homeless person money,I give them food.I dont want them to go buy alcohol ,but I care if they are eating or not.
Its the same way I wont give an addict money, they will only continue for a longer time on a downward spiral. I would instead give them a meal & some numbers of programs. Be loving & firm . Have your boundaries set up. Prayer does alot of damage to the things the devil is planning. Prayer really works. Trust in the Lord with all of your heart & do not depend on your own understanding seek his will in all you do & he will direct your path.

People fail us ,but God should be our focus

God is the most important thing in my life. Without him I wouldn’t be here alive today. I always think about that. So its a good thing he is first in my life. This makes me a better mother, daughter,friend a better person in general. If I try and make any person I care for the center of my life,they will fail me. People fail,everyone makes mistakes including myself .We ALL fail sometimes. So we should not put all of our high expectations on others. If we do that ,well we have put them in the place that belongs to God. You have seen people who are so amazing ,they love God and are so kind.But the minute they make a mistake people are quick to say “Christians are phonies” You see we expect to much out of people .WE should be giving it our all, when it comes to our Relationship with the Lord.Investing real time with God so we can know him more intimately. When he is your primary focus your mind becomes more clear, you view people differently and you become more forgiving. Balance is what we need. Love people but don’t make them your God.Your emotional needs are important …let the Lord help you in this.

Matthew 10:32-39
32-33 “Stand up for me against world opinion and I’ll stand up for you before my Father in heaven. If you turn tail and run, do you think I’ll cover for you?

34-37 “Don’t think I’ve come to make life cozy. I’ve come to cut—make a sharp knife-cut between son and father, daughter and mother, bride and mother-in-law—cut through these cozy domestic arrangements and free you for God. Well-meaning family members can be your worst enemies. If you prefer father or mother over me, you don’t deserve me. If you prefer son or daughter over me, you don’t deserve me.

38-39 “If you don’t go all the way with me, through thick and thin, you don’t deserve me. If your first concern is to look after yourself, you’ll never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you’ll find both yourself and me.