“Dear Potential Husband” This is for my single Christian friends

My thoughts on dating 


God has walked me through a ton. He has been my husband. That’s what the bible says in Isaiah 54:5 For your Creator will be your husband; the LORD of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.

I have known him as my provider, my protection, my comforter , he has loved me, been a father to my kids… God has provided for all of my needs in so many ways. I would not trade this time or my experiences for anything in this world.  I see a change in my outlook on things. My faith has been tried, stretched and strengthened in him. I have leaned on the Lord for my every direction in this life raising kids, finances, miracles & safety.

I have noticed a change in the desire of my heart. I have desired to be married again. The bible says in Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”

No rush. God’s got this under control.

Awhile back, I prayed about a certain man who wanted to date me. I had a dream that night that I will forever be thankful for. The conclusion after that vivid dream, he was not God’s best for me. And again I had another friend, a dear man. In prayer I heard the Lord give me direction. He also comforted me letting me know he had someone for me. I was to wait for God’s best for me.

So when you pray, believe, believe you will receive an answer or a confirmation. 

Mr. Worldly Man

I don’t care how nice they are, what they drive or what their income is. If they don’t have a relationship with the Lord, they are not for you. Not if your serious about your walk with God. 

Don’t let the loneliness get the best of you. Loneliness makes people do funny things. Satan can trick people who are vulnerable, if your not careful. Be on your guard in those times. Wait on God, he will guide you. I have many friends who have prayed, waited on God & are now happily married. It can happen!

The bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Me and my kids have been through wayyyy to much to let someone in our lives who isn’t right for me or for my kids. After all, he will be a part of all of our lives. And God wants what’s best for the other person too.

So regarding the worldly man or woman  you should run, go the other way, don’t even tempt yourself. If you are serious about your relationship with Christ you will not return to the vomit (hey its in the bible) meaning your old life style before you came to Christ.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Don’t think to yourself “MY situation is different” “I’ve got this,I can change him. ”

Oh my friend that’s the classic thing a co-dependent person would say. It’s not a healthy relationship for you, it’s not a healthy one for your kids.

Be careful, Solomon in the bible thought the same things & God had warned him not to have wives who didn’t know God. God told him that these women would turn his heart away from God. But Solomon loved them anyways.

His wives did just that. They turned his heart away from God. I feel sad every time I read this, He had walked so closely with God too.


Getting together with someone who doesn’t Love & follow the Lord is a recipe for a disaster.


I cant be Jesus for you.

If he didn’t have a walk with God before you met him, he’s not God’s best for you.

And you can’t make that happen.

 If you, deep inside think you can change him, then your headed for heartache.

So cross him off your list, he’s not God’s best for you. His life is God’s business. God knows what he’s doing. Let him go before you get so entangled in the web Satan has set up for you.


So don’t even start. As I said before Satan can use him to pull you away from God. Satan has been using that trick for a long time.

Jesus, the lover of your soul

Let God heal you before you jump in the dating game again. You need this time. Don’t run away from it. It’s good for you to cry it out. You may have locked up anger, disappointment’s, regrets & more all locked up and your running from dealing with it.

Before you start dating again consider sitting with the best counselor I know, Jesus! He healed my heart completely, so the pain of the past is now a memory. No more pain. 

God may want you to sit with a professional counselor, pastor and others who have walked that road before.

If you’ll go through this recovery time the right way, I believe in the future you can have a relationship again & a healthy one.

Go through the emotions, get it out! And then let God put healthy truths back in your heart. Let him Love on you and restore you.

Dear Potential Husband,

For all the years I have been faithful and loyal to you. I have been praying for you. I am restored and ready for the new.

I prayed for a man who will play ball with my son. Who will be a friend to me and my kids. A man that’s gentle but strong. A man who is mature in the Lord.

Thank you for waiting for me


Thank you for your faithful promises. Your word has guided me through it all! You have comforted me, been a husband to me, provided for me and Jesus you have loved me.